Who says no cutesy stuffs for boys?  These outfits are so adorable…

And this outfit is screaming “Sassy Girl” all the way.  The style and color is perfect for the Spring.

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Anyway, I thought it would be fun to tell people (especially to those who have never been pregnant before) what not to do or say to a pregnant woman.  You just never know how emotional those preggo moms are. Of course it is more tolerable if the pregnant woman know you personally.

1.  Never comment on their size
You’re so big! So small! Are you carrying twins? Are you sure you’re only (whatever) months? Are you sure your doctor is right? These comments are so annoying you won’t even believe it! I’m only 5′ tall, not mentioning short-waisted. I’ve always looked big when pregnant even though my belly was just the right size. When I was pregnant with my first child, I didn’t mind those comments at all. With the second one I absolutely hated it! I did have much higher tolerance when I know those people. But one time, a random guy came up to me and asked if I was carrying twins. Without even looking, I simply said no and just walked away. I also had a woman came up to me while I was shopping with such an awe expression on her face and asked, “OMG…are you about to pop?” I swear to God I almost punched her right on her face. Again, I just said no without even looking and walked away. If you can’t help making comments to your pregnant friends, just don’t do it to strangers. Big no no!!

2. Never ask if you can touch their belly… or even worse…touching it without asking!
I never ask any pregnant strangers if I can touch their belly.  I just thought it’s a little weird to do such thing when you don’t know that person.  I have been asked both times, luckily with people I know.  Although I’m not a big fan, I had a hard time saying no.  Again, keep your hands to yourself!

3. Once the baby comes out, your pregnant friend will still look pregnant
Our belly got stretched out for 9 months, so it takes time to go back to its normal size.  Even though the baby is out of the belly, we still look like we’re pregnant.

Being pregnant is physically and emotionally draining.  Negative comments or behavior, even though it’s not intentionally, is definitely not helping.

My job has gotten really stressful in the last few months, so much so I had to start seeing a therapist. I never really thought I would be one of those women that was so into her career but now that I’m climbing up the corporate ladderI can’t seem to get enough. I recently went to satellitestarinternet.com to get Internet for my house because I sort of lived out in the country and it was really creating a hassle for me that I didn’t have home Internet access. My boss is the type that e-mails you at midnight and expects your response when you wake up at 6 AM so it just wasn’t an option for me to be out of touch even when I wasn’t in the office. My therapist tells me I need to set some boundaries and really draw some lines between my personal life and my professional life but I feel like that’s always a lot easier said than done.

1.  I’m guilty of not spending enough time with my kids
Spending time with kids doesn’t have to be for hours and hours of dedicated playtime, although it’s great if you can do that.  It could be just a few minutes of conversation after dinner or before bath time.  As an example, sometimes my son would act silly while he’s getting ready for shower.  I tend to rush him into getting in the shower because I have other things to take care of.  I do realize it would be nice if I can laugh about it and respond to his silliness.  I have to say, it’s getting harder and harder for me to spend more time with my oldest son ever since his brother was born.

2.  Guilty of bribing
Yes, sometimes I bribe my child.  “Honey, if you go to Chinese School I will give you candy” or “If you be a good boy today I’ll let you watch TV”.  I’m unconsciously bribe my child all the time because clearly it’s the quickest way to handle the situation.  However, bribing could damage a child in the long run.

3.  Guilty of cussing
I’m the queen of cussing.  I cuss all the time, especially while driving.  There are many times when my son would repeat my cuss and I would be like… OMG I hope he won’t say that in school and I would get in trouble.

4.  Guilty from helping too much
I tend to help my son even though I know he can actually do a lot of things himself just because it’ll be faster if I do that.  In the morning I always end up putting on his shoes even though he can do it himself just because usually I’m in a hurry and need to do everything I can to take my son to school and be at work on time.

5.  Guilty of throwing empty threats
“If you do that one more time I’m going to put you in time out!!” or “You throw your toys one more time I’m going to throw it away”. Empty threats is a dangerous thing because then your child will not take you seriously. I’m 100% guilty of it and now my son views me as the softy one and my hubby is the stern one.

6.  Guilty of not providing enough vegetable in his diet
Asian don’t typically eat vegetable unless it’s mixed with the main dish, cook in a heavy sauce or in a soup of coconut milk…. none of these are healthy!  We eat raw vegetable by dipping it in a chili sauce, which my son can’t eat since it’s too spicy for him.  Now he refuse to eat vegetable.

Well, what can I say?  I’m far from perfect and sometimes… I just gotta do what I gotta do.  I’m hoping I can find a way to be a better parent for my kids.

I’ve always had a good experience with Craigslist so far.  Here’s some safety tips regarding Craigslist:

1. Avoid using Craigslist for job searching.  You’ll never know what kind of scams you’re going to end up with
2. Do not use Craigslist to look for service provider.  If you’re thinking of hiring a service provider such as plumber, landscaper, maid, etc, stick with Angie’s List.  Angie’s List provide ratings, reviews from former customers, penalty if the service providers do shady work, etc.  Contractors who are listed on Angie’s List are typically more expensive than the ones in Craigslist.  However, even if you go with Angie’s list contractors who don’t have a lot of reviews, they are still better off than Craigslist’s.  Better safe than sorry!
3. Only use Craigslist to buy and sell items.  If you sell items on Craigslist, ask the buyer to meet at public place.  I remember reading some news about a man who’s selling an engagement ring on Craigslist and got robbed by his buyer at home

We’ve sold a few items from Craigslist and always met the buyers somewhere else, although items we purchased usually taken place at the sellers home.  Items we’ve purchased from Craigslist:

• Bicycle Trailer $40
• Wrought iron patio furniture set (table and 4 chairs) $75
• SmartCycle with 3 games $30
• 3 hanging pictures and a curtain rod in transportation theme for my son’s bedroom (read this post).  This is actually the only time I met the seller at a grocery store’s parking lot
• A walker for my mom after she got out of the hospital $10

Items we sold:

• My car.  Sold it $200 below the asking price within 3 days of listing.  Hubby met the buyer at Mall’s parking lot
• My son’s Halloween costume when he was a baby, sold it for $10.  I met the buyer at McDonald parking lot

Craigslist is also the perfect place to find out about garage sale info and we got tons of good deals from it.  I love love love my Craigslist findings!